WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY “I TOLD YOU SO” (By: Elenora Paul Amah

WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY “I TOLD YOU SO” (By: Elenora Paul Amah Edited by Jeafi’s Pen)

A world where so many people want to be RIGHT and never want to be WRONG, “I told you so” has become one of the most EGO satisfying words on the part of the teller and an EGO degrading assertion on the part of the one being told.
Communications are vital for healthy relationships. Almost everyone says that because it is true. However, unhealthy communications can deal a great blow which CLEVER SCILENCE would gently glide through.
Hardly have I encountered an individual who is not careful of those who are quick to say “I told you so”. When you gently tender your advice or quickly dish out your predictions, do not assume the party concerned would automatically consent. It is important to leave room for outright refusal and also learn to wish them well in the part they have chosen, having an openness to admit that you do not know it all.
Peradventure, they come running back to you, having been hit with the realization that you were right and they were wrong, never say “I told you so.” That is the last thing they want to hear from you even though it is what it is at that moment; you could have been wrong anyways.
It is careless words that keep many grown ups locked up in their shells of regrets, having their EGOs wounded once and not strong enough for the quick dart of that same phrase they dread, especially from the mouth of a loved one who could have consoled them but rather prefers to be engrossed in the pride of being the only right person in the room.
Nobody ever wants to be reminded of how wrong they are, nobody wants to be crucified first hand after they are already sorry for their mistakes and probably wants you to help them find a way out. Those who say “I told you so,” communicate wrongly and are obviously seen as judgmental, nobody wants to have a decent conversation with you, and your words will leave them even more bruised than they came.
When next a person comes running back to you in their fragile moment of regret or acceptance, no matter how tempted you feel to emphasize how right you were, never say “I told you so”. For more, visit my facebook page @Elenorasays For enquires; Amah 08160583800 Jeafi 08148297932